Happy end of 2017!
As I was going through a journal exercise to outline my 2018 desired feelings and core intentions, I started thinking about how I can honor my body more.
Quite frankly, I’m tired of my own bullshit. I’m tired of the way I’ve been speaking to myself over the past few months.
In 2018, I want to feel strong and confident. In order to get to that place, I have to give myself more grace and patience and honor my body through the postpartum evolution.
I will honor my body...I will give myself grace and patience as I evolve.
I want to emphasize that this is deeper than losing 10 pounds or fitting into a smaller pair of jeans. It’s more than a 21-day fix or a 30-day crash diet.
This is about feeling deeply connected to the inner wisdom of our own bodies. It’s about ignoring the relentless marketing that preys on a mother’s every body woe and insecurity. It’s about knowing that we are strong and capable and we can heal and achieve our body goals. It's about pulling our inner strength forward, so that we can do the work, while showing ourselves intense compassion and patience.
A mother’s body is in constant evolution…from pregnancy to birth to postpartum and for years after.
You will go through seasons where you are more comfortable in your own skin, where you feel strong and capable. You will go through others where you don’t recognize your body. It’s all part of the journey and yours is unique.
Can you honor your body as it looks and feels today and as it moves through that evolution? Can you show it gratitude for the magic it’s brought you and your family? Can you give yourself grace and patience as your body changes shape, no matter the timeframe?
Here are some questions to ask yourself when you’re thinking about the way you want to feel in 2018 and how you intend to treat your body in order to feel that way:
- How can you show your body reverence, respect and love?
- Can you work to not make disparaging comments about your body - out loud or in your own thoughts? (this is a huge one for me!)
- How can you give yourself grace when healing after childbirth?
- Can you work to be patient with your body when making positive changes?
- Do you want to move your body more?
- Would you like to gain strength?
- Would you like to feel confident in your body and confident in your daily movements?
- Do you want to move through daily life with less aches and pains?
- Do you want to be able to get up and down and play with your kids on the floor with ease?
- Do you want to lift your kiddos and their carseats without straining or pain?
- Are you suffering from pain, which you want to get to the root of?
- Do you want to wake up in the morning feeling rejuvenated?
- How can you fill your body with more plant-based whole foods?
My intention setting framework (download the journal prompt below if you want a place to track yours!) is based on Danielle LaPorte's Desire Map and I focus on feelings first. I like to get clarity first on HOW I want to feel, then map my goals and intentions overall and for my body to those feelings.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- How do I want to feel overall most of the time?
- What are my core intentions and what actions will I take to feel that way?
- How do I want to feel in my body most of the time?
- What are my core intentions around my body and what actions will I take to feel the way I want to feel?
Here are two examples from my own exercise:
- I want to wake up in the morning feeling rested, energized and rejuvenated. To give myself the best opportunity to feel that way, I will go to bed by 10 pm.
- I want to feel strong in my body, in particular in my glutes and core. To build strength in my glutes, I will do a glute strengthening workout in my basement gym at least 2x per week. To continue to strengthen my core, I will intentionally maintain core engagement in my yoga practice at least 2x per week.
- I want to feel confident in my body and in my own journey. I will stop comparing myself to others on social media and judging my journey based on others. I will stop worrying about being perfect and take imperfect action to move 1 step forward at a time.
I hope this exercise helps you get clear on your desired feelings and body goals! As always, drop me a comment or send me an email directly to firstname.lastname@example.org.
I'll see you in 2018!